Can I be perfectly honest for a second? I’m not the biggest Valentine’s Day fan. I know it’s a sweet notion and all that jazz, but it just isn’t my thing. I mean do we really need a day to show our loved ones how much we love them? Not really. BUT this year I’m going to try to make it a great Valentine’s Day for my valentine, Luke. Here are some great gift ideas for your valentine based on the Love Lagnuages.
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What are the 5 Love Languages?
If you saw this post and wondered what the love languages are, let me explain them to you. The Love Languages were created by counselor and pastor Gary Chapman to understand the ways we want love to be shown to us and how to show love to others. He put them into 5 simple categories: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Services, Gift Giving, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.
Check out the book by Gary Chapman: https://amzn.to/3w77qKy
Most people have one or two of the love languages that really speak to them. This means that one of the 5 love languages makes you feel more “loved” by your significant other than the other languages when they are shown to you. When we find out or know what our significant other’s love language is then we can give them or show them love in a way that resonates with them.
Want to find out your or your Valentine’s love language? Take this quiz to find out: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
Words of Affirmation Ideas
If your significant other loves words of affirmation, then that means your words of encouragement and compliments mean a lot to them. Here are some gift ideas for your words of affirmation Valentine:
You could write them a poem or a letter about why you love them. My dad did this one year for my mom for their anniversary. He had it printed on fancy paper, had it framed, and it sat in our living room for years.
You could leave them a little note somewhere you know they will see it (in their car, on the bathroom mirror, or on the coffee maker). You could write a few sentences encouraging them or why you appreciate them.
Lastly, you could get engraved jewelry with your handwriting saying, “I love you” or something you commonly say to your significant other.
Here are some cute Valentine’s Day cards you can write thoughtful things about your significant other in: https://amzn.to/3w1sXUS
Acts of Service Ideas
When you hear “acts of service” just think “Actions speak louder than words”. These are the type of people who feel loved by people doing things for them or make their life easier. Some ideas for your Valentine’s gift for an act of service are:
Making them a cup of coffee just the way they like it in the morning before they wake up. You could also add making them breakfast to take another thing off their plate.
If you normally don’t plan the sitters for date nights, you could hire a sitter and plan out a whole date together.
You could do one errand (or more) that you know your significant other hates doing.
Lastly, you could cook them their favorite homecooked meal for dinner AND clean up afterward. I mean, who doesn’t love a good home-cooked meal without having to clean up the kitchen afterward?!
Here are some recipes you can make for your Valentine:
- Easy and Cheesy Baked Tortellini Recipe
- Delicious And Easy One Pot Garlic Shrimp Pasta Recipe
- Delicious Mini Oreo Cheesecake Recipe
- Amazing and Delicious Italian Meatballs Recipe
Giving Gifts Ideas
Now this one is pretty self-explanatory, basically, if your Valentine’s love language is giving gifts then they know you love them by giving them things. Just because their love language is gift-giving doesn’t mean they need/want expensive gifts. Here are some ideas for them:
You could get them something they’ve mentioned wanting but haven’t bought yet. This is not only giving them something they want but also a thoughtful gift by listening to your significant other’s needs.
You could get them a subscription box to any of the numerous subscription boxes out there. If they like to read, you can get them this book subscription that I love: https://www.authenticbooks.com/
Lastly, you could buy them a new outfit. Now fair warning this might not be a great gift for everyone. I like getting my husband clothes because I know he isn’t into fashion (though neither am I) but I still want him to look and feel good. So, take caution if you are choosing clothes for your significant other. Make sure you know what they like, or you can get them a gift card to their favorite clothing store.
Quality Time Ideas
The quality time love language is where your partner feels loved by you giving them your time with all of you attention. Here are some ideas for quality time cravers:
You could plan a weekend away together. Who doesn’t want someone else to plan a weekend trip where it’s just the two of you?!
You could turn on their favorite movie or TV show and cuddle on the couch. The important thing to remember is to not use your phone. Try to be present and they will really appreciate it.
Lastly, you could spend a night having deep conversations and rekindling your love by using these Couple Reconnect cards: https://amzn.to/42t8jJo
Physical Touch Ideas
People whose love language is physical touch can tell you love them by the physical ways you show love. Here are some ideas for your valentine if physical touch is their love language:
You could give them a massage or buy a massage for them. Either way, they will love that you are trying to help them relax.
You could buy them soft bathroom towels, new bed sheets, weighted blankets, or comfy pajamas. Anything that will make them feel cozy and warm will do the trick.
Lastly, you could take dance lessons together. This one is cool because you will be taking the time to learn new skills together while also touching.
Final Thoughts on Valentine Gift Ideas
I know most of these ideas aren’t just things you can buy from the store and call it a day. Most of these ideas take planning and dedication. If you really think about it that’s what Valentine’s Day is about. You think about your Valentine and what will make them happy. Sometimes it isn’t a shiny thing in a box (although I won’t complain about that!) that you want or need. Sometimes you want to feel supported and loved in the love language you speak.
I hope you all have a fantastic Valentine’s Day and I hope these ideas will spark some inspiration for an idea for your Valentine. Let me know in the comments below what your love language is, what your significant other’s love language is, or what you are planning for Valentine’s Day. I love hearing from all of you!
Thanks for reading,
Kel
People who are saving money and can’t spend much. Nothing wrong with quality time and it’s special for the couples.
Exactly! Sometimes what you need from your partner to feel loved can’t be found in a gift store. Some people just need their significant other’s time and attention
I love this book but for some reason never thought of gift ideas that correspond with the loves languages thank you
Thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed my post!
As a physical touch lover, I have to agree that a massage would be a perfect gift. Thank you so much for sharing this life!
Right! Who would say no to a massage?! It just sounds so relaxing!
I love what your dad did! Need to plant that one in my hubby’s mind.
Isn’t such a cute idea?! My Dad is a very thoughtful guy and he does a great job of picking the perfect gifts for my Mom.
I never thought gift giving with the love languages in mind! Thanks for sharing!
I absolutely love this list of Valentine’s Day gifts based on love languages. I’ve read the book a few times (it’s always a great refresher) and this list you generated is perfect for anyone and everyone in our life! For those of us who are single and looking for ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day on our own (or with our friends) feel free to check out my post https://pantearahimian.com/7-ways-to-celebrate-valentines-day-when-youre-single/
Thanks and I’ll have to check out your post too!
Great way to think about Valentine’s gifts! I always think about mine and my husband’s love languages, but haven’t ever considered applying that to gift-giving!
Thanks! I like to use my husband’s love language to do little things but recently I thought about using them for gift ideas. He seems to enjoy the gifts that are catered to how he feels loved.
That’s so smart!!!
Thanks!
Great post! Didn’t think of matching a gift to love language and it doesn’t have to be a thing.
This is a great list! My love language is physical touch and your suggestions are awesome!
Cute ideas
Such a clever way to look at giving to your loved one(s) during Valentine’s Day!! I’m definitely taking notes for my own giving this year!
Love the idea of gifts based on your love style. Great post!
This is great because the gift speaks to what is important to the receiver. Go by this list and you’ll give the perfect gift every time!
This is a great list
Thanks!!
Oh I love the book and that you put ideas to go with it! Love this!